Church Dread & Reclaiming My Faith

I can almost pinpoint the moment I decided that church was no longer for me. I was sixteen and sitting at a table in the same room where our girls' youth group met every Monday evening. And I was listening to a visiting priest explain why homosexual behavior was sinful. Not homosexual feelings, mind you … Continue reading Church Dread & Reclaiming My Faith

Making It

At dinner tonight, I asked my kids what I should write my article about. “Pandas,” declared the five-year old, with flat certainty. “Or, if you don’t know enough about pandas,” my nine-year old began, “You could write about how hard it is to be a mama going to work every day and taking care of … Continue reading Making It

For Mothers Who Grieve

Griefs tendrils have coiled around my body with no regard for my life, goals or daily schedule. Despite the bright eyes of my child bearing witness to my demise, who I know I love most of anyone dead or alive, I recently was forced to very publicly attempt to be (and fail constantly at being) … Continue reading For Mothers Who Grieve

Empty Fortune Cookie – a poem for National Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month

October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. When we, as feminists, talk about reproductive justice, it needs to include the full spectrum of pregnancy and birthing options. And miscarriage, although it happens in about 20% of pregnancies, is still largely veiled in silence and stigma. First and foremost, it is crucial to honor the grief … Continue reading Empty Fortune Cookie – a poem for National Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month

Poverty: A Tale of Grief and Coping

I struggled with authority figures my entire life. It wasn’t uncommon that I came out of my mouth to anyone. I did what I wanted, I didn’t do what I didn’t want to do, and I followed my life path with reckless abandon. My big head—full of the gift you’re given as a teenager, all … Continue reading Poverty: A Tale of Grief and Coping

Booby Trapped: Navigating the Complexities of National Breastfeeding Month

Everywhere you look, people have an opinion about breastfeeding. August is National Breastfeeding Month, and as of 2018 (2018!) it is finally legal to breastfeed in any public or private space in all fifty states, as well as Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands. Unfortunately, this hasn’t done much to curtail the aggressive shaming of … Continue reading Booby Trapped: Navigating the Complexities of National Breastfeeding Month

7 Children’s Books that Teach What We Should Have Been Learning All Along

It's happened. I've officially crossed the threshold into grouchy grown-up. I never thought I'd be here, and wow, is this weird, but here I am. I am standing in my kitchen, throwing together what I can for dinner when I hear something ridiculous and uneducational coming from the television, and I think to myself, "What … Continue reading 7 Children’s Books that Teach What We Should Have Been Learning All Along

Love Isn’t a Body Part

Today at breakfast, my son Felix sat in his booster seat at the dining room table, mixing banana yogurt into a bowl of Frosted Mini-Wheats. “I love my hands,” he marveled, holding up his spoon, and admiring his chubby fist. He turned to his big brother. “What’s your favorite body part, Milo?” Milo, age eight, … Continue reading Love Isn’t a Body Part

The Woman Soldier’s Daughter

Growing up, I was under no impression at all that my upbringing was even the slightest bit unique. I went to school, I looked after my brothers, I disliked lima beans. Nothing unusual to my way of thinking. Breakfast was typically cereal, and mom was normally either out the door as we were or already … Continue reading The Woman Soldier’s Daughter

Loud, With An Apron, And Smoking: The Influence of a Feminist Homemaker

When I think about the way my home should feel I think about Mary. If I picture her back then, during the early years of my childhood, she is wearing a blue floral dress with an oversize cardigan sweater, the sleeves bunched up past her elbows. Her hair is pinned back in a tortoise shell … Continue reading Loud, With An Apron, And Smoking: The Influence of a Feminist Homemaker