Church Dread & Reclaiming My Faith

I can almost pinpoint the moment I decided that church was no longer for me. I was sixteen and sitting at a table in the same room where our girls' youth group met every Monday evening. And I was listening to a visiting priest explain why homosexual behavior was sinful. Not homosexual feelings, mind you … Continue reading Church Dread & Reclaiming My Faith

I’d Rather Be at Home (& other reasons I cancelled those plans…)

"I'm so sorry - I'm feeling a little sick." "No, I forgot I made plans already! Rain check?" "Oh, shoot! That was tonight? I completely spaced, and I'm out of town!" For a good many years, I was the master of the elaborate excuse. While I can't say I'm particularly proud of it, I must … Continue reading I’d Rather Be at Home (& other reasons I cancelled those plans…)

Dear Scarlet: A Review

Dear Scarlet is Teresa Wong’s first book: an intimate graphic memoir on postpartum depression. Raw but reassuring, the book is framed as a letter to her daughter, Scarlet. Wong says that when she thought about writing the book, her memories all came back to her as images. She’d spent most of those early months in … Continue reading Dear Scarlet: A Review

Poverty: A Tale of Grief and Coping

I struggled with authority figures my entire life. It wasn’t uncommon that I came out of my mouth to anyone. I did what I wanted, I didn’t do what I didn’t want to do, and I followed my life path with reckless abandon. My big head—full of the gift you’re given as a teenager, all … Continue reading Poverty: A Tale of Grief and Coping

Booby Trapped: Navigating the Complexities of National Breastfeeding Month

Everywhere you look, people have an opinion about breastfeeding. August is National Breastfeeding Month, and as of 2018 (2018!) it is finally legal to breastfeed in any public or private space in all fifty states, as well as Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands. Unfortunately, this hasn’t done much to curtail the aggressive shaming of … Continue reading Booby Trapped: Navigating the Complexities of National Breastfeeding Month

The Courage It Takes

There is a force unrivaled in social media. The validity of your relationships, the quality of your life, and the sheer recognition of your existence lies solely on your internet presence. In the palm of our hands lies instant gratification at best, and the source of our despair at its worst. Both venerable and oppressive, … Continue reading The Courage It Takes

The Pigmentation of Isolation

Girl friendships should be so sacred. It is so hard to admit you're happy to be a girl, that you like pink, that you like Chipotle, that you might be a little basic. We've been conditioned to abandon what makes us pointedly women, if we dare demand attention for more than our looks. Drop your … Continue reading The Pigmentation of Isolation

Love Isn’t a Body Part

Today at breakfast, my son Felix sat in his booster seat at the dining room table, mixing banana yogurt into a bowl of Frosted Mini-Wheats. “I love my hands,” he marveled, holding up his spoon, and admiring his chubby fist. He turned to his big brother. “What’s your favorite body part, Milo?” Milo, age eight, … Continue reading Love Isn’t a Body Part

All is Fair in Love and Trauma Bonds

Content warning: sexual abuse, physical abuse, self harm, violence I became familiar with the concept of trauma bonds at the age of 8 years old, and they became a reoccurring theme in my life by 20. In my childhood, there was a man in my life who had access to me in the mornings. He … Continue reading All is Fair in Love and Trauma Bonds

The Power of Gender Inclusive Language

Gender is one of the most fundamental aspects of our sense of self. As a queer feminist mom raising two kids who were identified male at birth, and who (so far) identify as boys, I spend a lot of time thinking about visibility and affirming parenting practices. I’m encouraged that gender inclusivity is a topic … Continue reading The Power of Gender Inclusive Language