Making It

At dinner tonight, I asked my kids what I should write my article about. “Pandas,” declared the five-year old, with flat certainty. “Or, if you don’t know enough about pandas,” my nine-year old began, “You could write about how hard it is to be a mama going to work every day and taking care of … Continue reading Making It

For Mothers Who Grieve

Griefs tendrils have coiled around my body with no regard for my life, goals or daily schedule. Despite the bright eyes of my child bearing witness to my demise, who I know I love most of anyone dead or alive, I recently was forced to very publicly attempt to be (and fail constantly at being) … Continue reading For Mothers Who Grieve

Empty Fortune Cookie – a poem for National Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month

October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. When we, as feminists, talk about reproductive justice, it needs to include the full spectrum of pregnancy and birthing options. And miscarriage, although it happens in about 20% of pregnancies, is still largely veiled in silence and stigma. First and foremost, it is crucial to honor the grief … Continue reading Empty Fortune Cookie – a poem for National Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month

Love Isn’t a Body Part

Today at breakfast, my son Felix sat in his booster seat at the dining room table, mixing banana yogurt into a bowl of Frosted Mini-Wheats. “I love my hands,” he marveled, holding up his spoon, and admiring his chubby fist. He turned to his big brother. “What’s your favorite body part, Milo?” Milo, age eight, … Continue reading Love Isn’t a Body Part

Sex After Baby: My Search for Community, Connection, and Cunnilingus

Trigger Warning: This article contains mentions of rape and sexual assault as well as birth-related trauma.  This article is not a step-by-step guide about ways to get ready to have sex again. It’s an intimate account of my search for helpful and sensitive information and community to share my own experiences and struggles to reclaim … Continue reading Sex After Baby: My Search for Community, Connection, and Cunnilingus

The Woman Soldier’s Daughter

Growing up, I was under no impression at all that my upbringing was even the slightest bit unique. I went to school, I looked after my brothers, I disliked lima beans. Nothing unusual to my way of thinking. Breakfast was typically cereal, and mom was normally either out the door as we were or already … Continue reading The Woman Soldier’s Daughter

Childhood Mental Illness – How to See the Signs

1-in-5 Children in the US are said to have a diagnosable mental illness. More than Half go untreated. When I look back at my childhood, the signs were clearly and overwhelmingly there. By the age of 11, I would regularly isolate myself from my family by hiding away in another room for what felt like … Continue reading Childhood Mental Illness – How to See the Signs

Loud, With An Apron, And Smoking: The Influence of a Feminist Homemaker

When I think about the way my home should feel I think about Mary. If I picture her back then, during the early years of my childhood, she is wearing a blue floral dress with an oversize cardigan sweater, the sleeves bunched up past her elbows. Her hair is pinned back in a tortoise shell … Continue reading Loud, With An Apron, And Smoking: The Influence of a Feminist Homemaker

Identity & Parenthood: My Transition Into Motherhood

When I was still pregnant with my child, Max, I had this idea of what motherhood would be like. I pictured myself walking around the house with a baby on my hip or cooking dinner while he was sleeping, me moving around the kitchen with ease. I pictured myself as the same person, doing the … Continue reading Identity & Parenthood: My Transition Into Motherhood

Bisexuality and Unexpected Pregnancy

Fighting bi-erasure gets even trickier after you've given birth. Bisexual (adj): sexually attracted not exclusively to people of one particular gender; attracted to both men and women Pansexual (adj): not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity If we're going to be accurate about this, I'm actually pansexual, but … Continue reading Bisexuality and Unexpected Pregnancy