Church Dread & Reclaiming My Faith

I can almost pinpoint the moment I decided that church was no longer for me. I was sixteen and sitting at a table in the same room where our girls' youth group met every Monday evening. And I was listening to a visiting priest explain why homosexual behavior was sinful. Not homosexual feelings, mind you … Continue reading Church Dread & Reclaiming My Faith

Making It

At dinner tonight, I asked my kids what I should write my article about. “Pandas,” declared the five-year old, with flat certainty. “Or, if you don’t know enough about pandas,” my nine-year old began, “You could write about how hard it is to be a mama going to work every day and taking care of … Continue reading Making It

WTF is Going on Hair?!

Lets talk about hair. Black hair. Natural black hair typically falls into one of six categories of curly or coily hair types; ranging from 3A to 4C. 3A is the loosest curl pattern, and 4C is the tightest coil pattern. As a black woman, with a 4C hair type, I've peeped many things over the … Continue reading WTF is Going on Hair?!

For Mothers Who Grieve

Griefs tendrils have coiled around my body with no regard for my life, goals or daily schedule. Despite the bright eyes of my child bearing witness to my demise, who I know I love most of anyone dead or alive, I recently was forced to very publicly attempt to be (and fail constantly at being) … Continue reading For Mothers Who Grieve

Empty Fortune Cookie – a poem for National Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month

October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. When we, as feminists, talk about reproductive justice, it needs to include the full spectrum of pregnancy and birthing options. And miscarriage, although it happens in about 20% of pregnancies, is still largely veiled in silence and stigma. First and foremost, it is crucial to honor the grief … Continue reading Empty Fortune Cookie – a poem for National Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month

I’d Rather Be at Home (& other reasons I cancelled those plans…)

"I'm so sorry - I'm feeling a little sick." "No, I forgot I made plans already! Rain check?" "Oh, shoot! That was tonight? I completely spaced, and I'm out of town!" For a good many years, I was the master of the elaborate excuse. While I can't say I'm particularly proud of it, I must … Continue reading I’d Rather Be at Home (& other reasons I cancelled those plans…)

Dear Scarlet: A Review

Dear Scarlet is Teresa Wong’s first book: an intimate graphic memoir on postpartum depression. Raw but reassuring, the book is framed as a letter to her daughter, Scarlet. Wong says that when she thought about writing the book, her memories all came back to her as images. She’d spent most of those early months in … Continue reading Dear Scarlet: A Review

I Had to Go Through the Wrong Ones to Be Ready for the Right One

Last weekend, I had dinner with a group of friends from college, and it was wonderful. Dinner, to us, means everybody brings a dish, picks their poison, and gabs for about eight hours straight about everything and nothing. Dinner means there's an extra friend hiding in the basement meant as a surprise for the rest … Continue reading I Had to Go Through the Wrong Ones to Be Ready for the Right One

Poverty: A Tale of Grief and Coping

I struggled with authority figures my entire life. It wasn’t uncommon that I came out of my mouth to anyone. I did what I wanted, I didn’t do what I didn’t want to do, and I followed my life path with reckless abandon. My big head—full of the gift you’re given as a teenager, all … Continue reading Poverty: A Tale of Grief and Coping

Booby Trapped: Navigating the Complexities of National Breastfeeding Month

Everywhere you look, people have an opinion about breastfeeding. August is National Breastfeeding Month, and as of 2018 (2018!) it is finally legal to breastfeed in any public or private space in all fifty states, as well as Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands. Unfortunately, this hasn’t done much to curtail the aggressive shaming of … Continue reading Booby Trapped: Navigating the Complexities of National Breastfeeding Month