Making It

At dinner tonight, I asked my kids what I should write my article about. “Pandas,” declared the five-year old, with flat certainty. “Or, if you don’t know enough about pandas,” my nine-year old began, “You could write about how hard it is to be a mama going to work every day and taking care of … Continue reading Making It

I’d Rather Be at Home (& other reasons I cancelled those plans…)

"I'm so sorry - I'm feeling a little sick." "No, I forgot I made plans already! Rain check?" "Oh, shoot! That was tonight? I completely spaced, and I'm out of town!" For a good many years, I was the master of the elaborate excuse. While I can't say I'm particularly proud of it, I must … Continue reading I’d Rather Be at Home (& other reasons I cancelled those plans…)

I Had to Go Through the Wrong Ones to Be Ready for the Right One

Last weekend, I had dinner with a group of friends from college, and it was wonderful. Dinner, to us, means everybody brings a dish, picks their poison, and gabs for about eight hours straight about everything and nothing. Dinner means there's an extra friend hiding in the basement meant as a surprise for the rest … Continue reading I Had to Go Through the Wrong Ones to Be Ready for the Right One

Poverty: A Tale of Grief and Coping

I struggled with authority figures my entire life. It wasn’t uncommon that I came out of my mouth to anyone. I did what I wanted, I didn’t do what I didn’t want to do, and I followed my life path with reckless abandon. My big head—full of the gift you’re given as a teenager, all … Continue reading Poverty: A Tale of Grief and Coping

Forgiving Each Man Who Has Tried To Explain The World To Me

A Kind of Poem, in a way. I am writing this without thinking. Forgive me. Today has been a hard day.  _____ I refuse to give up. The first man to try to ruin my curiosity and my determination for a gifted love and remarkable friendship in romance was the leader in a string of … Continue reading Forgiving Each Man Who Has Tried To Explain The World To Me

All is Fair in Love and Trauma Bonds

Content warning: sexual abuse, physical abuse, self harm, violence I became familiar with the concept of trauma bonds at the age of 8 years old, and they became a reoccurring theme in my life by 20. In my childhood, there was a man in my life who had access to me in the mornings. He … Continue reading All is Fair in Love and Trauma Bonds

On Being Flawed, Average, & Lovable Anyway.

Let's see.I have invisible braces that I never wear. I got them because I am self-conscious about my crooked bottom teeth, and of my uppers, which will likely get gnarly because of two teeth I had removed in the last five years. They were removed because of cavities that turned into problems. Those problems happened … Continue reading On Being Flawed, Average, & Lovable Anyway.

Childhood Mental Illness – How to See the Signs

1-in-5 Children in the US are said to have a diagnosable mental illness. More than Half go untreated. When I look back at my childhood, the signs were clearly and overwhelmingly there. By the age of 11, I would regularly isolate myself from my family by hiding away in another room for what felt like … Continue reading Childhood Mental Illness – How to See the Signs

Effects of Sexual Assault Are Source of Severe Health Problems

Originally written by Nicole Lane for Medtruth There are 321,500 sexual assault survivors in the United States. An estimated 50 to 90 percent of them develop PTSD. Other health effects of sexual assault that victims face include depression, high blood pressure, anxiety, kidney disease, aneurysms, and diabetes, among other illnesses. Physical Consequences of Sexual Victimhood A recent … Continue reading Effects of Sexual Assault Are Source of Severe Health Problems

Morning Meditation – 4 Ways to Make it Successful

I once found myself in a conversation with a friend discussing holistic practices to soothe symptoms of mental illness. He was interested in approaching his situation with a more holistic approach. Many people in our society would like for you to believe that these practices are bunk science. That's because, yes, some of them are. … Continue reading Morning Meditation – 4 Ways to Make it Successful